©2011 by Donna Cunningham, MSW
In our recent contest for finding new article topics, Alice suggested, “I would love to see an article about the astrology of self-acceptance. Believing that self-acceptance is an important pathway to personal happiness, I’ve been fascinated by what indicates the lack of it in a chart (what aspects, placements?) and how to work with those difficult bits to move away from self-rejection to healing and embracing the self. “
Well, you’ve got it, Alice, and your entry is upgraded to an ebook winner!
The 2nd House and False Self-Esteem vs. True Self-Worth
Let me start by repeating one of my pet peeves in current astrological interpretation. I find myself at a loss to understand why self-esteem would be attributed to the 2nd. To me, the only way the 2nd house tells you about your self-esteem is if your self-esteem is dependent on how much money you have.
It’s true that vast numbers of people today gain a false self-worth from their net worth, but that’s very different than truly feeling good about yourself, especially in an economy as volatile as ours.
True self-esteem is a function of the Sun, along with self-worth, self-confidence, and other self words.
The house placement of the Sun and the matters governed by that house are important clues to the things that make up our sense of self. Our competence and success or lack thereof in addressing the matters of that house has a huge effect on our self-esteem. In the 6th house, we base it on the quality of our work; in the 7th, it comes from our partnerships; and on.
Aspects to the Sun and Validation from our Parents
The first and most enduring source of feeling good or bad about ourselves comes from our parents and whether they welcomed and loved us or whether they taught us that we weren’t worth much.
The Moon represents the mother, and the various aspects of the lunar cycle show much about where we stood with her—whether she was able to nurture and support our basic nature.
The conjunction (New Moon) shows a good deal of merging and of difficulty in separating our self-concept from who she was. The two squares (First and Third Quarter) show a disharmony between your essential nature and hers.
Being in the same element, a Sun-Moon trine shows important shared qualities that create a sort of natural affinity and mutual support. The opposition (Full Moon) can show a relationship of opposite types, and yet that you each provide a certain kind of balance for one another.
With the quincunx, there’s no common meeting ground. Were you perhaps a bundle left on your parents’ doorstep? I can almost hear your mom saying, “You’re not from around here, are you?”
The Sun represents the father, among other things. Sexist or not, you do get a great deal of self-esteem from the way he treated you and how much or how little you’re able to identify with him.
For instance, my father was a Pisces, and my Sun is in the 12th house square my Moon. I was strongly identified with my Dad and very alienated from my Mom. (See How to Survive a Pisces Dad—and How I Survived Mine. )
When a planet is conjunct the Sun, there’s a fusion between you two and some quality or characteristic of his—it’s part of your core identity. With squares or oppositions between the Sun and other planets, there’s little similarity between your basic nature and his.
He couldn’t fully relate to you and your hopes for yourself—he may have even actively opposed your career plans. With trines, it was an easy match, and there were qualities of his that supported your goals. I can almost hear him say, “That’s my boy!” (even if you were a girl.)
One thing I’ve noted about major transits to the Sun (from Saturn on out to Pluto) is that it’s a period of grappling with the relationship—outer or inner—with the father. It may be that he’s going through a crisis due to aging, and it changes your relationship. How you view him changes along with it—you see him as the older adult he now is, rather than the all-powerful being he seemed when you were little.
In the process, you often finally own up to the ways you’re like him and come to see that he’s been a role model—good or bad—in important areas of life like the matters of the house involved.
If your parents didn’t leave you with a lot of self-esteem, don’t conclude that you can’t ever develop any. Achievements, respect, and loving connections that develop in adult life can build your confidence and self-worth.
I’m living proof of that, as I was shy and self-conscious in childhood, teens, and young adulthood, but my accomplishments and the fact that people who shared my interests seemed to like me made all the difference.
More to Come about the Sun
This is all for today, folks. I’m still struggling with an injured wrist. You need information about specific aspects between the Sun and other planets. I’m going to look for a good guest blogger on that.
You’ll also learn important influences on your Sun by taking this test: How Strong is your Sun? Here’s the Score!
One thing I do want to leave you with, however, are some tools to use to work on confidence and self-esteem issues.
There’s none finer than the flower essences, and especially Sunflower essence. If you never try any other, try that!
Below is a list of links to articles about essences for self confidence and self-esteem that my coeditor, Deborah Bier and I published in Vibration Magazine.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with flower essences, download the introductory chapter of my ebook, Flower Remedies—How Plants’ Energies Can Heal Us: flower essence information-ch1. (You can order the book itself here: moonmavenpublications.com.)
And for those of you who’d be more comfortable with the whole idea if there were a bit of proof, download this research project: Photographic Evidence of Essences–Deborah Bier
How about you, Readers? Do the aspects of your Sun to the Moon and other planets reflect your relationship to your parents, and specifically how did that affect your confidence?
Articles from Vibration about Flower Essences for Confidence and Self-Esteem:
- Balancing on a Sunbeam: Sunflower Essence and Self-Confidence
- Gratitude for the Sunflower
- Larch: You Can Do It!
- Solar Power–Bach Flower Remedies and the Solar Plexus Chakra
- Rekindling Our Own Inner Light by Dancing with Our Shadows …
- Gentian and Cerato–Two Bach Remedies for Self-Doubt
- Vibration Magazine Blog » Blog Archive » Essences for Loving Yourself
- Flower Remedies for Children’s Self–Esteem – Vibration Magazine Blog
- Larch — A Help for Students with Confidence Problems
- Red Clover: Doing New Things with Confidence – Vibration Magazine Blog
- Making Easier and More Confident Decisions with Australian Bush Flowers!
Posts about the Sun and Leo:
- How Strong is your Sun? Here’s the Score!
- Spotlight on Leo—a Tale of three Queens
- The Planet ahead of your Sun—and What It Says about You
- 12 Famous People with 12th House Suns
- Daybreak and the 12th House Sun
- 10 Things You May Not Know about Solar Returns
- 10 Good Articles about Solar Returns
- The Dance of the Primal Lights –How the Sun and Moon Light Up the Personality
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