©2010 by Donna Cunningham, MSW
Neptune has been the topic on Skywriter this past couple of weeks, and we’ve looked at boundary issues and codependency in great depth. What I’m being impelled to take up now is the topic of money and the 2nd house, and I already have a series of several posts in the works. At first look, the two topics couldn’t be further apart, but in fact they’re deeply connected. Nothing enmeshes two people into a codependent tie more than financial dependency, and nothing makes that tie more conflict-filled, painful, ensnaring, and ultimately demeaning for both.
Codependency and Neptune in the 2nd
Wherever Neptune or Pisces are in the birth chart, there’s a strong tendency for boundary problems, since Neptune is where we merge with All That Is. Deeply spiritual at best, on the more mundane level, this blurring of boundaries can easily create problems such as codependency and the chronic tendency to play either the rescuer or the rescued where money is concerned. In the 2nd house, Neptune or Pisces planets can blur financial boundaries, with fairly sticky results. It can come up almost as strongly for people like myself who have the ruler of the 2nd house in the 12th aspected by Neptune.
The house Neptune rules shows which significant others are involved in the financial muddles. Suppose that someone has Neptune in the 2nd house, with Pisces on the 5th, suggesting financial codependency with children or lovers.
With Neptune in Libra, for instance, love is valued far more than money—and so it should be! However, with this particular house placement, Neptunians with low self-esteem may equate the two and be convinced that children, lovers, or friends won’t love them unless they are showered with gifts.
They may repeatedly bail children or romantic partners out of financial trouble, thinking doing so shows their love, when it is more often a kind of enabling. Unfortunately, the codependency this creates over time is not love, as it undermines the receiver’s will to be self-sufficient. With Neptune in the 2nd but in Scorpio instead of Libra, financial dependency and control issues can be meshed in very murky ways.
Neptune, Rescuing and Survivor Guilt
Something that has only occurred to me as I geared up for this series is how much of a role survivor guilt can play in the motivation of a rescuer. They give and give in a futile effort to relieve their tormenting guilt about doing better than the people they rescue. You can often trace the source of that guilt to the placement of Neptune in the chart.
For myself, with Neptune in the 3rd, the guilt centers on my single mom sister and her children and about how very difficult her life has been. As the oldest child in a family that had gone down hill badly by the time she was born, I’ve had many advantages that she did not, including a great education through scholarships. Despite much healing work, I am often haunted by guilt that she missed out on those advantages. She’s my primary guiltor in life, and over the years, I’ve helped out financially whenever I could.
There are a few flower essences that can help relieve these patterns. Most of them are by Bach/Healing Herbs and can be found in stores that sell health food and New Age books. The very first such remedy I ever took was Pine, a remedy for guilt. What sold me on it was that within a couple of weeks, I was able to say no comfortably to a request from my sister for money to fund a particularly ill-advised project.
Another helpful remedy for rescuers is Centaury, for those who are easily taken advantage of, and a third is Red Chestnut, for those who fret and worry about people who don’t worry enough about themselves. More information about these remedies and how to use them will be linked below.
The Underpaid Helper—Astrologers , Healers, and their Fees
Many astrologers, healers and others in the service fields who have Neptune in the 2nd find it hard to charge appropriately, so they live in chronic financial chaos or peril. By undercharging or letting clients owe large sums, they persuade themselves that they are spiritually evolved. Often these seemingly saintly acts are efforts to bolster low self-esteem. They may also have been heavily programmed by religious teachings about money as the root of all evil.
But, yes, their difficulties are also bound into codependent relationships with their clients. At the end of this article, you find a link to a download about astrologers, where this codependency stems from, and what the implications are for practice.
As a result of undercharging or of discomfort in marketing themselves, some helpers wind up needing rescuing themselves when they can’t meet expenses. When self-esteem improves and some of the misconceptions are cleared away, they’re able to charge what they are worth, and the financial difficulties begin to shift.
The Better Side of Neptune in the 2nd
Neptune in the 2nd has some wonderful attributes as well. In a refreshing departure from the materialism of our age, some people with this placement share a solidly spiritual value system, seeing the holiness in others as their primary worth rather than their possessions. It is important to keep the material and spiritual realms in balance—a task we all struggle with, but one that is consistently in the face of the person with Neptune or Pisces in either of the money houses, the 2nd or 8th.
Not a bad segue into my next topic, the 2nd house, was it? Earning money hasn’t always been my strong suit, so I expect to gain many new insights myself as we explore it. But first, readers, if you can see how boundary issues, codependency and money have been connected in your own lives and how that’s reflected in your chart, do share what you can in the comment section.
Related articles and information on Skywriter:
- FREE DOWNLOAD: This chapter of my ebook, Counseling Principles for Astrologers goes into codependency and its implications for practicing astrologers in depth. Download it here: ch7 – codependency.
- How Strong is your Neptune? Here’s the Score!
- Letting Go of Survivor Guilt–Learning the Limits of your Responsibility for Others
- Fog in the Workplace—Neptune or Pisces in the Career Houses
- Neptune’s in your Career House? It’s not a Transit, It’s an Epoch!
- 22 Articles about Neptune on Skywriter
- What your Astrology Chart Says about your Boundary Issues
- Boundaries 101 ~ A Course for Neptunians
- Boundaries 201–Ten More Tips for Neptunians
- Free Download: Introductory Chapter of my book on Flower Essences: flower essence information-ch1.
Articles in the Astrology and Finances series:
- Readers Ask: Q & A about the 2nd House
- Your 2nd House—A Clue to Extra Income
- Uranus in the 2nd—Freedom & Individuality, vs. Financial Stability
- Money and Pluto in the 2nd House—The Haves vs. the Have Nots
- The Unsuspected Role of the 8th House in Fiscal Fitness
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